Mindful Speech

Have you ever heard of the 3 Gates? Is it true?, Is it necessary? and Is it kind?.  This is another Mindfulness strategy we have been teaching to students and during some of our Guidance lessons.  These gates/ questions are a helpful guide to help students slow down and think before they speak. If you can answer YES to each of the gates then what you say will most likely be with the best of intentions.  These gates might be a helpful tool to use a home, when someone has used hurtful or unkind words. Review these gates and see if what was said is TRUE and if so, was it NECESSARY to share (and with whom- a parent, teacher, friend sibling, etc.) and then if so was it KIND (to oneself or others)?  Might just be a different approach that may work :) Give it a try! 

Is it TRUE?

Is it NECESSARY?

Is it KIND?